|Posted on February 9, 2016 at 4:45 PM|
In 2012, Center for Disease Control statistics report that approximately 9% of high school students report being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the 12 months before surveyed. There is also emotional abuse or dominance including degrading name calling, regulation of what the person does, who they are allowed to talk to, scrutiny over the persons texts that have been received or sent, social network monitoring, access to passwords to scan and control perceived cheating, and monopolizing time spent alone. For parents, family members, and friends there are warning signs. Physical signs can often be seen but the victim may attempt to conceal with clothing, makeup. They may minimize what has occurred ie; “It was my fault” or “I had it coming to me” "Its no big deal". Other signs include reduction in eye contact towards others, not smiling or laughing, isolation, withdrawal from their friends & families, or quickly reply back to the person, in a matter of seconds, with text communication. No teenage victim is obligated to keep this silent nor should their friends or family. Often with professional help they can increase their assertiveness, learn about healthy connections and communication, become empowered and learn to love them self. The perpetrator can be treated as well. If you suspect speak up, they may be waiting to have the courage to reply and ask for help.