|Posted on March 25, 2015 at 12:45 AM|
An exercise I have done with clients is to go over a moral inventory list. In AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, they use a similar list, which is part of the 12 steps model. Often, the list will consist of what the person has done wrong including harm to those who love them, bad choices, bad consequences, self-blame, guilt, shame,feeling wrong wrong wrong ... It is important everyone does this at some point in their life. Look at your moral compass, and values and begin to write what you have done "wrong" but don’t forget to write down what you have done right. If you can take an honest assessment of yourself, which can appear to be critical, you can move into the next stage of life change. If you cannot write the list because it hurts too much or your vulnerabilities will be exposed or you believe the list does not apply to you, then your morals are unbalanced. The only way to transform is to expose yourself to yourself. Once you write your list, put it down for a couple days and return to it on a peaceful day, that means no distractions. This is important to prioritize what needs to change. Do you need to ask for help from someone? Do you need to speak to a Licensed Counselor? Do you need to seek help from a professional organization like AA or NA (Narcotics Anonymous)? Now’s the time to open the door of change.
Welcome to growing up and finding out who you are.